Why do we get married?

Just like I said earlier in the introduction, lots of people go into marriage for a lot of different reasons.

Some marry because they love each other while for some others, love is not just enough. There has to be other things like money, the man has a fat account.

The father of the girl has a loaded bank account or her family name could open doors just by mentioning it. Some others could be getting married because their spouses either has a green card or PR Cards.

These reasons may not be such a bad reason for one to want to get married but they sure determine the way our marriages go. They are surely the underlying tone that directs our dancing steps in our marriages.

For instance a man marries a woman for the sole reason that she is slim and beautiful and 5yrs later she has 2 lovely kids and she is fat and pot bellied.

What do you think will happen to that man and his "love" for his wife, definitely his love for her will disappear simply because those things he loved in her has gone. It is not his fault that he doesn't love her any more, no but it is his fault that he married her for the wrong reasons.

So also a lovely looking lady married a man just because he has a fat bank account and 10yrs later business go bad and the man is in debt the woman refuses to manage and seeks for other men to satisfy her monetary needs.

Yeah!!!  I know that is not good, what ever happened to (for better for eh?)  We ll continue from here next week,  if you have any questions please let me hear them see you.

The school called marriage: what do we really know about marriage.

    Marriage means different things to different people. People go into marriage for very many different reasons. Marriage should be a union between two adults who love, trust and understand each other enough to understand that what they are going into is not going to be a bed of roses. They are being admitted into a school of an unending learning,where there is no excellent report coming home any time ever but then in this school if you are not careful you could fail and drop out.

• On this blog we are going to be looking at: 

• The very many different issues that brings problem in marriages.

• How best these problems could be solved to avoid brake ups.

• The role of effective communication between couple in a marriage.

• What does love do in our marriage?

• Does trust play any role in keeping our marriages together?

But most importantly I will like your participation; throw in questions on any issues you are confused about. Bring in problems that you need solutions for, Auntie Bibi will try to find answers and solutions to your worries.